Counseling for Jealousy
JEALOUSY IS DEFINED IN TWO MAIN WAYS
Rival jealousy: this is a fear of possible rivals, especially if you are in a relationship and fear that your partner might be attracted to someone else, may be disloyal to you and as a result leave you.
Envy jealousy: this is being jealous of someone else, such as their qualities, possessions, resources and so on.
The feelings experienced when in a state of jealousy include resentment, hurt, anger, a sense of inadequacy, failure or humiliation and a sense of powerlessness and frustration. Both types might also involve a tendency to compare yourself to someone else, feeling inferior or lacking something and ultimately holding your perceptions of inferiority with a high importance.
Defining characteristics
The defining characteristics of rival jealousy involve the fear of losing someone important. There is a degree of insecurity in the relationship, regardless if there are many other positive aspects to the relationship. In fact, individuals reporting this type of jealousy claim that they are in the best relationship they have ever been in and it is because of this that the individuals fear losing something this important to them.
A certain degree of jealousy can be a positive thing. It shows that humans have feelings and are not completely robotic. However, partially due to the stigma surrounding jealousy, it can create feelings of shame and guilt.
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EFFECTS OF JEALOUSY
Rival jealousy can be a dangerous thing. It shakes a relationship from its foundation-trust. This jealousy can create an internal torment- should two people that do not trust each other even be together? And if you are together, should you let jealousy create boundaries and restrictions in a relationship?
Jealousy can also ruin relationships by taking away the quality time spent together. Jealousy undoubtedly leads to arguments which mean focusing on negative qualities in each other, tearing relationships apart.
The further you are in a relationship, the more jealousy will progress. It can reach uncontrollable levels for which urgent professional help is required. Not only can jealousy undermine one’s self-esteem but it is one of the number one causes of spousal homicide worldwide.
JEALOUSY TREATMENT
Treatment of jealousy involves building the individual’s self-esteem, recognizing own worth and establishing aspects of life that are not dependent on the opinion and or attention of someone else.
It is also helpful to teach people who are affected by jealousy to challenge their negative thoughts in order to reduce the intensity of their jealousy. Psychotherapy and Cognitive Behavioral therapy Visualization
can be particularly effective in helping people balance
their unhelpful thinking sty.
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